Rant Against the Criticism oh and Everybody Everywear: Pink & Red too
February 14th, 2012 § 6 Comments
I never go through my stats. Well, hardly ever. I don’t make money on this blog, I don’t get free things from companies nor am I am looking to make this into a career – this is a hobby plain and simple. So I don’t care what my numbers are. I started the blog as a creative outlet and years later I started blogging my outfits to further my creative outlet. It forces me to get dressed some days (I have a lot of days off in a row from my job each week and I don’t always need to leave the house). I also know I’m overweight and I buy nearly all my clothing at common plus size stores. I try to find style in those stores but it’s not easy. Fashion doesn’t exist for plus size so you make do with what you can. Especially in my life. A lot of what I wear isn’t particularly creative or different but I do live in Omaha, Nebraska so I won’t be as fashion forward as say New York or LA.
Now Omaha is a fantastic little town but I am not that cheerleader. Talk to Megan (Princess Lasertron) or Sarah (Fash Flood) for that. I like living here but I still miss living in Colorado 16 years after my family moved to Nebraska – longer than I ever lived in CO. And we definitely are NOT “in the dark” where fashion is concerned. But refer back to the fact I’m plus size. Megan doesn’t even make dresses in my size. Nevermind the average joe on the street looking at you funny for some fashion get-ups (in a sea of work out clothes & sweatpants this happens). And I, personally, don’t live in the fashion realm. I don’t have anything to do with any of that. It’s not my career at all. Sure it’s amazing but again, not for me career-wise. I just have a passing interest in it. My clothes reflect that. I wear what I wear for my life. However boring and normal in the middle of the Midwest it is.
So when I decided to go through my stats and found that I was linked on a talking-shit blog making fun of me it hurt. For the most part the ones talking about me were nice but a few were not. Nowhere near it. Clown shoes were mentioned. Yes I wear a 12/13. Deal with it. I am sure that I am also a foot taller than the ones criticizing my shoe size. It’s called biology (my mother is 5’8″ and my father is 6’6″ – I have a brother who is 6’7″). Yes I am overweight, but even when my BMI was *exactly* what it was supposed to be for my frame and height I wore plus size clothing. It’s how I’m built. Yes, I need to lose weight. But I am in excellent health (seriously my doctors are floored with my numbers including my cholesterol levels and my blood pressure) and this is who I am right now. Part of the reason I started blogging my outfits was to give me courage and convictions about being myself. I have to live with me, no one else does. I have to be happy with who I am.
So you don’t think I dress cute? Move along, don’t stay. You think I’m a “fat pig”? Move along. The only reason you would say something like that is to make yourself feel better. You just want to sit there and make fun of me? MOVE ALONG. Don’t you have something better to do? That truly shows your character now doesn’t it? Remember the old dating adage: “if someone is nice to you but not nice to the waiter they are not a nice person”. It applies to you as well. Mean girls never change and this reflects on you, not me. I’m not saying you have to like me or my style (or lack thereof) or anything else but making fun of me crosses the line. Go and haunt somewhere else. The internet is a big place I’m sure you’ll find somewhere where people can tear you down for your own imperfections.
(ETA: Interestingly enough a local columnist/author wrote an article today about Melissa McCarthy and why she is fabulous – it highlights some things I mentioned here. Great read!)
With that aside this is Everybody Everywear day – Pink and Red. My troubles started with my red boots. It was snowing and cold yesterday (incidentally if I look cold in the photos it’s because I really really was and I haven’t perfected the “blogger not looking cold” look!). I was going to wear the boots regardless. And because it was cold I couldn’t wear certain pink or red pieces – they weren’t warm enough. That messed up my color scheme. I didn’t have a vibrant enough pink to go with the red sweater & boots. In the end I made do. I feel like this outfit is lacking though and I just can’t put my finger on it. I’ll stew about it a bit I guess.
Happy Valentine’s Day BTW!!
Plain Black long-line tank: Target (July 2011)
Red Paisley Victoria Dress (worn as a shirt): SWAK Designs (March 2011)
Red grandpa cardigan with pockets: Thrifted (December 2011)
Skinny/Slim leg dark wash jeans: Lane Bryant (March 2011)
Red Dr Martens boots – Holt: 6PM (December 2011)
Pink floral gem necklace: Torrid (April 2011)
Large cut-out metal disk earrings: Payless (August 2011)
Girl, you are working it. Don’t let the haters get you down.
It must be painful to hear those things, but I hope you also hear people like me, who read your blog faithfully and enjoy it so much. Thank you–and remember that good always triumphs over evil.
i love reading your blog & seeing what you put together. wish i had more courage to try things like that. some of us just werent born with a perfect body & have to make due with what god & children gave us. keep going!
Just let me know I will throat punch them
~ we love you and keep it up!!!!! haters be hating!!!
Love your style! I believe no matter the size of a person they can be pulled together and look fantastic…You look fantastic! I know what you mean though…everyday!
From my experience on living my life as an obese female: people don’t seem to think we deserve respect, we are not worthy of love. Some people think we can not be desired or nobody can be truly be attracted to us because we are repulsive. F you unlubricated..this people are genuinely insecure themselves and what a pity they are so superficial and choose to insult others. Continue blogging proudly you are interested and by the way you have beautiful skin